How will you feel?
How will you feel when your closest family members told you that your kid is naughty?
How will you feel when your friends commented that your kid is naughty?
How will you feel when your kid's teacher tell you that your kid is naughty?
How will you feel when a police tell you that your kid committed a crime?
Of course, no parent will want the last one to happen. And also have different feelings for the first three.
I am going through a stage as a mother whereby I have naughty children of my own to deal with. I am learning to accept and appreciate comments from others, and change for the better. I have to admit that I have been very busy in business, and some how neglected my ABC for some time. A is getting a bit out of hand recently. It's time for discipline. My mum bought a cane! Finally! hahaha... My sister was telling me how my mum choose a cane when buying. She beat herself with the cane to see which is the least painful. hahaha... So funny and loving...
A is going through a stage whereby he's not respecting our helper. He will shout at her, hit her, etc. He does that to my mum too. Last week, I beat him on his arm hard for hitting our helper, and made sure he apologise. I dunno why he's in this stage. I am thinking of solutions and methods of disciplining him. Any ideas? Is it a 4 year old stage? Before this, I was dealing with a screaming boy, which is gone now. Thank God for that.
Recently, I have a friend who is kind of telling me that I have wasted all the money I have put in for my kids' education. Ya, his daughter need not go for any classes, and now a very very good and sensible girl at 15 months old, and very well disciplined. hmm... Oh... I certainly did not like that, to be honest, cos he compares with my 4 years old son and my 2.5 years old daughters. Remember, I have 3 kids, not 1. I also have a very very good and sensible boy when he was 15 months old, and well discipline at that age too, and A was the only child at 15 months old. Well, I have to swallow my pride and accept it, cos I cannot control others' opinion. Everyone's point of view comes from their own individual experiences in life. I gotta respect that. Well, parents with more than one child will agree with me that it's certainly easier with just one child.
My B and C are coming to 3 years old in about 6 months' time. They have progressed well so far, and that's my opinion and experience. They are toilet trained since 18 months old. They are completely toilet trained, even night time, before they even hit 2 years old. This is "toilet discipline", so I called it. Aloysius started walking at 13 months old. Bernice started walking at 9 months, Charlene started walking at 10 months. When I mention walking, I mean without support, and walking with two legs on their own. I think it's becos I followed Glen Doman program in "How smart is your baby" since their birth. Are these wasted efforts? Both my gals are singing many songs now. The credit goes to Julia Gabriel. They can even change the lyrics of the songs. For example, "twinkle twinkle little stars", can become "twinkle twinkle little moon". They are pretty creative at this age, in my opinion. When they are looking for something or doing something, they will sing the songs sang at Julia Gabriel, such as "where is pooh bear, where is pooh bear" when looking for pooh bear. Aren't they creative in applying what they have learnt in their daily play time? The aim of going for classes at a young age is exposure for the kids. Plus I would rather pay for their classes so that they will learn something, rather than lying around at home with someone who do not know how to teach them things as simple as ABC. At 2.5 years old, gone are the milk bottles for Bernice and Charlene. They are drinking from cups. They drink their milk from the cup without much spillage now. They feed themselves their cereals and milk in the morning. If you are a parent with older kids, I believe you will know that for young kids to drink from the cup without much spillage takes a few months of practice. It does not happen overnight. They drink their milk before bed from the cup too, not milk bottles. And they are 2.5 years old. Kids do make mistakes which adults do too. Kids do things that they do not even know it's not right. Kids do fight or compete with their siblings, which I thought is natural. It's worse for twins. Even my nephew, who is 11 months old, is feeling jealous over the grandparents. I believe my nephew will be more matured emotionally than an only child who is surrounded by adults only, cos there's competition, "heart-breaks", sharing, playing with kids. My nephew's growing up environment has one 4yo brother and two 2yo sisters. A child's behaviour and maturity can be tested in the presence of other children of around the same age, not when the only child is among adults.
And I thought to myself how silly I have been to talk about Shichida, Glen Doman, etc. Silly me... Why share when someone refuse to listen? Or worse, get me to talk about it, and in the end hint to me that I wasted my efforts? And my choices are bad? I really felt so silly. I better tell myself to shut up. hahaha... Share only when someone is willing to listen. Anyway, all kids have a growing up stage.
But being brainwashed by Shichida and Glen Doman books, education gotta start from young, and the earlier education is started, the better it is, I have no reservations to share the importance to start from young to anyone. Cos time and tide waits for no man, and all kids are growing up very fast. And I felt "kan cheong" for the young kids.
From Glen Doman,
a 5 year old learn things faster than a 6 years old,
a 4 years old learn things faster than a 5 years old,
a 3 years old learn things faster than a 4 years old,
a 2 years old learn things faster than a 3 years old,
a 1 year old learn things faster than a 2 years old.
Well, think I better stop here. From this experience, I learnt to become wiser and more tolerant to others. Be more humble, and respect every family have their own way of educating and disciplining the children. Before we comment on others kids, better think about our own kids first.
I pray to God to give me the strength and energy to guide my kids in the right path, as I am tired having to deal with them one after another. It has been about 6 months when I realised something is not right since our trip to Japan. I thank God for giving me the opportunity to visit Japan with my kids and realise things gotta change.
