Are women "selfish"?

This morning, I met someone who was frustrated, disappointed and angry with her husband because he's sick and could not perform in bed to "make baby". The wife wanted to have a baby very badly and it has been a very stressful period of time ever since her miscarriage. I have been through that a few months ago.

I thought to myself, am I selfish to get angry? I think I am. Hubby also dun wanna be sick. I shouldn't be angry with him for something that he has no control of. Hubby has been very patient with me and care for me... How can I forgot to love me for a moment just to attain my goal of having a baby... Now, I have learnt to appreciate my hubby more and stop thinking about making babies. What will be, will be...

Just something to share. I read a book about women. One of the thing is that women, by nature, tends to only remember and notice the negative things about their man. I dunno if it's 100% true. After reading the book, I sat down and think "is that why I am so unhappy everytime". So I tried to find and realise the little things that my hubby do for me. I try to remember things that he did that make me happy :). It does put less strain to our relationship, and make me appreciate the things that he does more.

Another point is women will tell men "You always like this", or "You never do this". The words "always" and "never" will just come out naturally from a woman. And the men will think, it's not always and not never. There was once when I was angry and tell my hubby "you always need me to remind you". Then he told me "where got always". Then I reflect back what I have read and told him "it's woman talking ma". haha... I find it quite true. It's just that "sometimes" becomes "always" in a woman...